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This is where you hear how I actually think.
Fifteen years of one-on-one client work — helping people feel, understand, and stop working against their body, their pleasure, and the people important to them. As a Certified Performance Neuroscience Coach (Flow Research Collective), think of my work as seducing people into doing what they already know is good for them.
Pleasure Central Radio isn't a podcast I'm trying to grow. It's the thinking behind that work — a complete 131-episode archive of conversations I had while I was living, questioning, changing, and figuring things out in real time.
These conversations span 2016–2023 (publicly released starting 2018). Some of what I thought then I still agree with. Some has changed. And the visual, normalized process of growth is valuable for posterity.
Some of it is about sex.
Some of it is about work.
A lot of it is about the places people get stuck and keep trying to fix the hard way.
There's no right (or wrong) place to start.
Just find something you are pulled towards.
Some of it will challenge you. That's the point.
If it lands, cool. And if it doesn't, trust that too.
Photo: Jody Wentworth / Harbor & Helm Photography
Safety isn't outside you
You've tried being someone you're not just to feel safe — more agreeable, more impressive, easier to be around.
It worked, until it didn't.
Now you're tired. And something in you knows that performing isn't the same as belonging.
This path is about what happens when you stop outsourcing safety — and start finding it in yourself instead.
Start here:
Ep. 041 — Take Your Safety With You, Suzanne & Rebecca (R) — What it actually means to stop shape-shifting to feel secure — and why most people don't realize they're doing it.
Ep. 040 — Risk and Reward: How Good Can It Get? (PG) — What changes when you stop asking "is this safe enough?" and start asking "how good could this get?"
Ep. 066 — The Compersion Episode: Pleasure at Your Partner's Pleasure (PG-13) — What pleasure becomes possible in relationships when you're no longer operating from an intense fear of loss.
Tanuki and Rebecca — Hosting Sex Parties, a High Price of Admission & Models of Consent (R) — A real-world look at boundaries, consent, and what safety actually looks like in complex environments.
Ep. 042 — Embodiment in the Age of Technological and Isolation, Suzanne & Rebecca (PG-13) — What happens when you're alone with yourself — and can't distract your way out of it — and how to stay grounded and embodied.
Ep. 056 — The Pleasure of Accepting Your Body & Loving Yourself, Suzanne & Rebecca (R) — Where self-acceptance stops being an idea and becomes something you actually get to live from the inside out.
You'll hear Suzanne in many of these — my first long-time Pilates & embodiment teacher and a delightful thinking partner.
If something clicks and you want to look at your own patterns more directly, you can start with a Clarity Call.
You don't need a new path. You need to trust the one you're already on.
You've already done the hard part.
You chose something. You started. You stayed longer than most people do.
And now you're in that place where it's not new anymore — but it's not fully working yet either.
This path is about what happens next.
When motivation drops. When doubt gets louder. When you start wondering if you picked wrong — or if you just haven't stayed long enough to see it work.
Start here:
Ep. 117 — The Art of Seduction: Lessons from a Courtesan for Entrepreneurs (R) — What actually draws people in — and why forcing it pushes them away.
Ep. 073 — True Love Requires True Sight (PG-13) — Why seeing clearly — yourself and others — changes everything about how you build and stay.
Ep. 053 — Run Your Own Race, with Tanuki and Rebecca (PG) — What it takes to stop tracking everyone else and actually move at your own pace.
Ep. 109 — Why We Want to Quit (and How to Stay) (PG) — The moment most people leave — and what keeps you in long enough to win.
Ep. 120 — A Woman's Path to Independence (PG-13) — Knowing when to leave, when to start, and how to take care of yourself in both.
Ep. 105 — The Road Thus Travelled (PG) — Looking back without regret — and using it to move forward cleanly.
If any of this lands and you want to talk it through for fifteen minutes, you can start with an Alignment Call.
You don't fix your life. You change how it feels to live it.
Not everything that feels off is a problem to solve.
Some of it is a signal.
A shift in attention. A different way of relating. A quieter kind of change that doesn't look dramatic — but changes everything about how your life actually feels.
This path is less about doing more.
And more about noticing what's already here — and letting that be enough to start.
Start here:
Ep. 038 — Talk Nerdy to Me: Your Brain on Gratitude (PG) — What actually changes in your brain when you practice gratitude — and why it works.
Ep. 020 — Joy Bank, with Rebecca & Shawn (PG) — How to build a reserve of joy you can actually draw from when things get hard.
Ep. 118 — Live a Life of Ease, Balance, and Engagement (PG) — What "balance" actually looks like when it's real — not performative.
Loving Widely — And Your Brain on Love (PG-13) — Expanding how you love without losing yourself in the process.
Ep. 037 — Headboard Handprints: How We Love (R) — The real, lived expression of love — not the idea of it.
Ep. 106 — The Healthier You Are, The Better Sex You Have (R) — The direct relationship between how you live and how you feel in your body.
Ep. 078 — The Light in the Dark, with Radiant Rebecca (PG-13) — Finding something steady inside you — even when things aren't.
If what your body is telling you is bigger than a habit change, you can start with a Flow Diagnostic.