These get explicit in places — check the ratings if you're at work or listening around others and use your best judgement.
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This is where you hear how I actually think.
Fifteen years of one-on-one client work — helping people feel, understand, and stop working against their body, their pleasure, and the people important to them. As a Certified Performance Neuroscience Coach (Flow Research Collective), think of my work as seducing people into doing what they already know is good for them.
Pleasure Central Radio isn't a podcast I'm trying to grow. It's the thinking behind that work — a complete 131-episode archive of conversations I had while I was living, questioning, changing, and figuring things out in real time.
These conversations span 2016–2023 (publicly released starting 2018). Some of what I thought then I still agree with. Some has changed. And the visual, normalized process of growth is valuable for posterity.
Some of it is about sex.
Some of it is about work.
A lot of it is about the places people get stuck and keep trying to fix the hard way.
There's no right (or wrong) place to start.
Just find something you are pulled towards.
Some of it will challenge you. That's the point.
If it lands, cool. And if it doesn't, trust that too.
Photo: Jody Wentworth / Harbor & Helm Photography
Safety isn't outside you
You've tried being someone you're not just to feel safe — more agreeable, more impressive, easier to be around.
It worked, until it didn't.
Now you're tired. And something in you knows that performing isn't the same as belonging.
This path is about what happens when you stop outsourcing safety — and start finding it in yourself instead.
Start here:
Ep. 041 — Take Your Safety With You, Suzanne & Rebecca (R) — What it actually means to stop shape-shifting to feel secure — and why most people don't realize they're doing it.
Ep. 040 — Risk and Reward: How Good Can It Get? (PG) — What changes when you stop asking "is this safe enough?" and start asking "how good could this get?"
Ep. 066 — The Compersion Episode: Pleasure at Your Partner's Pleasure (PG-13) — What pleasure becomes possible in relationships when you're no longer operating from an intense fear of loss.
Tanuki and Rebecca — Hosting Sex Parties, a High Price of Admission & Models of Consent (R) — A real-world look at boundaries, consent, and what safety actually looks like in complex environments.
Ep. 042 — Embodiment in the Age of Technological and Isolation, Suzanne & Rebecca (PG-13) — What happens when you're alone with yourself — and can't distract your way out of it — and how to stay grounded and embodied.
Ep. 056 — The Pleasure of Accepting Your Body & Loving Yourself, Suzanne & Rebecca (R) — Where self-acceptance stops being an idea and becomes something you actually get to live from the inside out.
You'll hear Suzanne in many of these — my first long-time Pilates & embodiment teacher and a delightful thinking partner.
If something clicks and you want to look at your own patterns more directly, you can start with a Clarity Call.